Women in Clothes
I am loving this book! If you're interested in finding out about why women wear the clothes they wear and how the clothes make them feel, this is a great one to read. It lays out how our lifestyle, life history, choices change what we wear, and then in return how what we wear influences our lives.
My favorite part of the book is the surveys. Here's my answer to a few questions in the survey. Interested? Read on and then also answer them for yourself!
1. WHEN DO YOU FEEL AT YOUR MOST ATTRACTIVE?
When I am feeling good about my hair. It has to be air dried to perfection (the right haircut is a must), or if it's up, the bun has to be the perfect balance between messy and acceptable. I also like v-neck or lower round neck shirts. I don't like being cleavage-y, but showing clavicle makes me feel...free, which makes me feel good.
2. DO YOU NOTICE WOMEN ON THE STREET? IF SO, WHAT SORT OF WOMEN DO YOU TEND TO NOTICE OR ADMIRE?
I didn't use to, but I am trying to now. I have never cared much about what other people are wearing, but in this 'dress myself better' project, research is important! I have noticed I tend to gravitate towards women who look almost perfectly made up, almost being the key word. I like when some some aspect of a woman's appearance looks undone. Brings an ease to the whole look.
3. WHAT ARE SOME THINGS YOU ADMIRE ABOUT HOW OTHER WOMEN PRESENT THEMSELVES?
I admire consistency in style. My friend, Sasha, has a clear sense of what her style is. I won't attempt to describe it for her, but I could look at any outfit and instantly know how she might feel about it. I crave that identity, that consistency in style and who I am.
4. WAS THERE A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE WHEN SOMETHING “CLICKED” FOR YOU ABOUT FASHION OR DRESSING OR MAKE-UP OR HAIR? WHAT? WHY DID IT HAPPEN THEN, DO YOU THINK?
I was cleaning(ok, trying to clean) my closet earlier this year when I noticed I had all these clothes I had never worn (or worn once for an event), while I kept repeating the jeans and tshirt cycle at work. This objectively looked like a problem that needed fixing.
5. WHAT ARE SOME SHOPPING RULES YOU WOULDN’T NECESSARILY RECOMMEND TO OTHERS BUT WHICH YOU FOLLOW?
I do most of my shopping online because I get overwhelmed and annoyed in physical stores. I return about 90% of what I buy. The way I look at it, since I am not wearing any makeup at home and have likely showered a few minutes before trying the clothes on, it's actually more hygienic than trying on a ton of clothes at a store and only buying a few.
6. WHAT IS THE MOST TRANSFORMATIVE CONVERSATION YOU HAVE EVER HAD ON THE SUBJECT OF FASHION OR STYLE?
I've always believed that I haven't ever had the time to care about what I am wearing. I am too busy hustling and getting shit done to care about looking good. Recently, I had a conversation with my friend Anisha about fashion and style. I see her as a woman of substance, one who is making a positive impact on the world, and she talked about how she has also been thinking about making conscious fashion and style choices. I saw that as validation of this quest that I am on from a badass woman I admire.
7. ARE THERE ANY CLOTHING (OR RELATED) ITEMS THAT YOU HAVE IN MULTIPLE? WHY DO YOU THINK YOU KEEP BUYING THIS THING?
Yup, I own multiple Marlo pants aka Flow Movement pants. These are the most comfortable workout pants I have ever owned. And I keep buying this thing because well, Marlo keeps releasing them in new prints.
8. IS THERE ANY FASHION TREND YOU’VE REFUSED TO PARTICIPATE IN AND WHY?
I don't usually do trends (well, not knowingly at least. But I am sure I participate in trends just like everyone else buying clothes) but one I have actively stayed away from is the thigh high boots last fall. Why? Because my hip to waist ratio is nowhere close to Khloe Kardashian.
9. HAVE YOU STOLEN, BORROWED OR ADAPTED ANY DRESSING IDEAS OR ACTUAL ITEMS FROM FRIENDS OR FAMILY?
My friend KIm is always well dressed. Whether it's after a sweaty workout or at a friend's wedding, she always has this vibe that's dressed up enough for the appropriate occasion, and casual enough that it looks like she didn't have to try hard. That 'I didn't really try but I still look great' vibe is hashtagstylegoals. Only, her body type is very different from mine or I would have copied her style exactly by now.
10. MANY PEOPLE SAY THEY WANT TO FEEL “COMFORTABLE,” OR THAT THEY ADMIRE PEOPLE WHO SEEM “CONFIDENT.” WHAT DO THESE WORDS REALLY MEAN TO YOU?
Comfortable really is so subjective, right? If you're tugging at a piece of clothing all day, you're probably not comfortable. For me it's also about fabrics. My mom is allergic to most polyester fabrics. I am not allergic myself, but I just don't like the feel of that fabric on my body (although some blends are OK). Also, I refuse to believe anyone can be 'comfortable' in heels.
Confident: This has to be tied with not trying too hard for me. Someone might look great, and project 'confidence' but if it looks like they are trying too hard, it tells me they are insecure about something.
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